Making love is wonderful and special. He holds you in his arms while you both move gently together, soft kisses, tender caresses and terms of endearment. Love overwhelms both of you as you snuggle together and drift off to sleep. But, sometimes you just need to be fucked.
It's crude, it's vulgar, IT'S TRUE!!!
Do you remember the first time you had mind blowing-rip-your-clothes-half-off-gotta-have-it-now-give-it-to-me-bend-me-over-do-what-I-tell-you-to sex? I do. I remember laying face down on the couch, breathless, my skirt up around my waist, one shoe off, and one boob out of my bra thinking "Holy shit! That was awesome" It was the equivalent to a runners high. Nothing beats the feeling of someone ripping clothes off of you in frenzied passion, driving into you with reckless abandon and leaving you lying there, gasping for air and waiting for the feeling to return to your legs. There is nothing in the world that is sexier, nothing that makes you feel more wanted.
So I like it rough. So what? Its is nothing to be embarrassed about.
I'm not promoting violence against women. I'm not saying that men should go out and devour the first woman they hook up with. No No No!! I'm telling you that necessary roughness is a fun part of sex that everyone should explore. This isn't S&M. I'm not breaking out the whips, chains and leather studded collars. And for the record, that's not wrong either. If you're into that, more power to you. I don't think I could do it. I don't find pleasure in pain or humiliation. I once had a guy twist my nipples so hard they hurt for two days. It was like he was trying to take the cap off a beer. I kept thinking, if I run into him again I'm going do a bit of twisting myself. Maybe a little Indian sunburn for good measure.
So, how do you promote this new found fun into your sex life? Drop your inhibitions. Plain and simple. How do you do that? Drink alot! Nothing lowers your guard like massive quantities of booze. If the first time fails miserably, you can always blame it on the alcohol. If you have a very open relationship, tell your partner. Letting them know that nothing turns you on more than being thrown up against the wall and ravaged.
You've got to test the waters. Hair pulling is always nice. But, don't grab it and yank. That hurts and will justify a knee to the balls. Grip from the base and pull gently. Spanking can be fun. Start with gentle, but full handed slaps. Don't haul off and whack and don't just use the tips of the fingers. Ladies, men are a bit wary about this area. Unfortunately, they believe that enjoying anything within the general area of their ass might mean they're gay. Nothing could be further from the truth. Usually, grabbing or grazing your nails over the whole general area will give you an idea of their comfort level.
Gentlemen: All of this does not mean you should take this opportunity to do a back door sneak attack. That is impolite, bad manners and poor kink etiquette. This subject will be discussed at a later date and time.
Embrace and explore your rough and tumble side. It's a new kinda high.