"It's an expression that body was designed to experience. And P.S., it's fabulous.......with the right guy and the right lubricant......" Kim Cattrall as Samantha on Sex in the City.
There I said it.
I'm sure my few disapproving readers are fanning themselves and swearing "What an evil slut" under their breath as insults fly from their fingertips and into my email/comments box. But, I figured I've gone this far. I might as well stop sticking my big toe in the water and just jump in the deep end with a big splash.
I've done it, will do it again and I like it. It's not for everyone, but it's not dirty, disgusting, sinful or shameful. It's just....well....different.
Before I get ahead of myself and start dishing advice and giving opinions, I should at least tell you about my first experience. I don't count the time that an ex-boyfriend "accidentally" went there. That was a definitely a one poke deal and not a true experience. It's something he'll never forget. I was NOT happy about it.
I will shamelessly admit my first time was in the back seat of a car, but with my now husband if that redeems me at all. We were dating in "secret" and hooking up all over Cape Cod. One day, we were hot and heavy in the back seat of his 4x4 and he asked me "Do you mind if I put it there?"
Silly, naive me. I had no idea what he was talk about and just nodded yes. I was so out of my mind with passion that I would have said yes to just about anything.
"Oh, baby-that's great-OOOOOH MY....What the hell are you doing?"
He stopped right then and said, "You have to relax. Do you want me to stop?"
I wasn't sure. But I figured what the hell, I should probably give it a try. So, I did and it hurt a little. I was too nervous and too tense. I also had my friend Josh's voice in my head "I told you! I told you! I knew you would do it some day!!!" He had made fun of me for years because as liberated I am about sex, I was totally against rear entry. It's been 9 years and he still brings it up in conversation.
Since then, I've learned that this is so much fun and there is one thing that you must remember"
YOU HAVE TO RELAX....and use lots of lube.
Think about it. What happens when you are really tense? Your muscles tighten up. Well, ladies...you have muscles back there and you don't even know it. Where do you think the term "uptight" came from?
Now....gentlemen....here is what I have to say to you. Ask before you try.
There are some ladies that are adverse to this experience and they just don't want to. That's fine. It is incredibly bad manners to assume that just because some gal is really into sex, that she wants you to gain some entry through the back door. No. No. No. Would you want her to assume that of you? Switches your mindset around, huh?
If you thinking about trying it, but there is still some hesitation there, try a little digital action. Fingers are smaller, easier to work with. If you are still uncertain, there are various toys that are designed for that particular area. You can discreetly purchase them on the internet and avoid the walk of shame out of your local adult shop. You never know, you could run into me there!
Try it, use lube, enjoy yourself. That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it!