It's tough being the only girl in a office full of guys. It's not just the obvious things; not having a penis, not being able to pee standing up, having to yell at them when they use the ladies room and don't put the seat down. Those things I can handle. I'm sure it might be nice to have a penis. I would love to pee standing up so I could just give it a shake and leave, not having to hunt around in the car for a discarded napkin to take on my journey into the woods, find tree to hid behind as I try not to pee on my feet. I'm pretty sure that I'll never get them to put the seat down in the ladies room. That's not as bad as not replacing the toilet paper, which someone failed to do on Monday!
It's the not so obvious things that make it difficult. These guys all hang out with each other in one way or another. In the summer its family barbeque's, days out on the boat, golfing, Red Sox games etc. Most of these activities happen on the weekends. On Monday mornings, they're laughing about this and that, reliving the fun and games. This past Monday, I overheard talk of sledding and the "You should bring the kids over and try out this hill" It gives me that twist in my stomach. Like I'm in 5th grade again and all the girls are talking about a slumber party from the previous weekend. A slumber party I wasn't invited too. Whether or not you were great friends, it still stung a bit when you weren't included.
It seems that I miss out on everything because I don't have kids. I never get the "We're gonna hang out at the beach this weekend with a few of the families. Why don't you come over?" Girlfriends with children don't want to hang out because you don't come with a side of "mini-me", thus enabling a "play date" on top of the girl time. I haven't seen an old friend of mine in almost a year because she is "so busy" with work, kids and all that stuff. You would think that she lives in another state rather than 15 minutes from my house. If I happen to get 5 minutes on the phone with her, she will have news of activities that include her other friend....the one with kids. Apparently she's not "so busy" when it comes to her.
I've never been the type of girlfriend to have the ironclad "no kids" rule when hanging out. Hey, if you can't get a sitter, but you want to hang out, just bring them! I love kids! We can hit the playground, beach, whatever. I'm easy. Just because I don't have them doesn't make me a monster. I have to wonder....if I came in a more traditional package - husband, kids, golden retriever, house with white picket fence & pool, drove a mini van - instead of this package - husband, no kids, 2 high energy insane dogs, house that's filled with loud electronics, guitars & porn, drives a sport car - would I be invited to all these events? Is it the fact that "why don't you bring the kids?" is missing from the invitation?